Going Beyond Shame to Show up Authentically
We all have stories that make us cringe when we think about them. They're the ones that we stuff deep down inside, saying "no one can ever know."
We didn't have confession or absolution. We had ritual penance, but for me it never felt like relief. It just helped me find ways to bury the shame, and bury the feelings, and then feel more shame around them.
While not everyone goes through an extreme childhood in fringe faith, we have a culture where shame is a topic that very feel people want to touch. Brené Brown has a wonderful TED talk on Shame, where the makes a point that shame must be discussed in order to move beyond it, and that it is intrinsically linked to vulnerability.
And, she says, vulnerability is directly correlated to our ability to create and innovate. So whatever your gift to the world is, whether it's your business acumen, your writing, your dancing, or your ability to inspire, if you hide in shame or avoid vulnerability, then you cripple your ability to give to the world.
A few weeks ago I found an old sketchbook from high school and found drawings that have a very similar through line to my current body of work. But even while I was looking at these sketches from 15+ years ago, I felt that hot shame run through me. "No one can ever see these."
Which brings me up to the present.
Recently a fellow artist reached out to me about collaborating on a piece for a series that acknowledges the ritual and folklore of Sin Eaters, in which one person 'eats' another's sin and thus takes it on, freeing the other.
Maybe, just maybe, when you share your story, you help heal someone else's as well.
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